As you continue along your life journey, it is inevitable you will encounter days when you do not feel emotionally ‘sunny and sweet.’ The source of these days will vary for all as well as the coping strategies implored. In my practice, my clients and I focus on the importance of being their authentic selves which includes embracing all of their emotions. We are human and have access to a wide range of emotions and it is important to acknowledge them and allow them to flow.
I know being angry, sad, hurt, disappointed, frustrated, etc. is not sexy, but it is real and when we do not acknowledge and create healthy ways to allow these emotions to flow through us, we end up stuffing them only for them to manifest in some other manner. Today, I implore you to spend time identifying healthy ways to allow your emotions to flow. For example, I have an absolutely beautiful sister friend who is more like a sister and we have co-created a sacred, safe space where we both feel comfortable and safe to be vulnerable with each other. This non-judgement zone provides the space for us to fully expand and yes, that includes expressing anger, frustration, questioning the process, the journey, etc. Something magical happens when you are free to be vulnerable, for healing, clarity, comfort, peace etc. occurs in this space.
We have served as witnesses to each other’s lives for approximately 7 years and the beauty of being a witness is the perspective we have on each other. Therefore, when we create space for our ‘ebbs and flow’ the other is there to follow up with reminders of how ‘THIS’ is just a moment. We remind each other of the bigger picture and provide perspective. We are both #women grounded in our God space and as such have and continue to be used as vessels to convey very particular messages to each other.
Growth does not come from ignoring, stuffing or labeling an emotion something that is sexier or more socially acceptable. Brene Brown teaches that vulnerability can only happen when trust and a safe space has been established and as such you cannot be vulnerable with everyone. However, it is imperative to co-create a space where you can be vulnerable and that may mean with a therapist and that is okay. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS