Let’s be honest, waiting sucks! Whether it is waiting in the queue for the loo, at #Starbucks, the airport, amusement parks, department stores, #restaurants (especially when hungry), feedback from an editor, acceptance letters for school, fellowships, #residency, jobs, correspondence after a first date, #medical results, #adoption, #ovulation for conception or the #birth of a child. Perhaps we loathe waiting because we have become accustomed to instant gratification, 4G speed, live streaming, real time and 24/7 correspondence via technology. We can pay for overnight shipping, to upgrade, shop online, drive through to acquire food and in some places alcohol. We can become members for additional perks which oftentimes include bypassing or significantly reducing wait times. We #Facetime, #Skype, #Hangout which all add to our addiction to ‘fast’, but there are still many organic experiences that do not subscribe to this ‘fiber optics’ approach to life…love, health and healthy #relationships are a few.
It is important to learn how to become still, to disconnect from all of the #voices (social media) consistently running through your mind as you constantly scroll your timeline. #Time is an illusion and every time we try to capture it or use it to lasso our dreams, #heartbreak and/or poor decisions is the outcome because #love, your heart’s desire and your #vision does not subscribe to manmade time. However, #fear is bound by time and panic is fear’s henchman who tries to bully you into making a decision, one that is not aligned with your heart, a decision requiring you to settle because you erroneously believe your only choice is from what you can physically see.
For example, operating from this space is what allows a woman to justify to herself that a ‘piece’ of a man is better than none or allows her to stay and accept his ‘crumbs’ because ‘Panic The Henchman’ has placed a ticking clock next to her ear with the goal of inciting fear. These ‘crumbs’ include but are not limited to:
- A secret and/or no title/commitment relationship
- A physical (sex) only relationship
- An abusive (mentally, emotionally, physically, financially and/or spiritually) relationship
- A ‘I’m not ready for a commitment, but I want all of the benefits of a committed monogamous space without investing in you’ relationship
You must shift your mind loves, you must disconnect from your obsession with time and the desire for instant. Quality and #sustainability do NOT operate within these parameters, they never did and never will. You cannot fast track love, health or healthy. There is no ‘quick fix’ to #healing your emotional wounds. The passing of time alone sans action will not result in sustainable change. I recently heard a quote (author unknown) who said,
‘Truth is what resides between our thoughts.’
Think about that for a moment…THE SPACE BETWEEN YOUR THOUGHTS. What can you do to expand this space? Releasing your need to constantly be stimulated by external variables (gadgets, social media, television, texting, etc.) is one way. Increasing your meditation, prayer, quiet space is another. You owe your dreams, vision and best life the opportunity to grow. You must become a staunch advocate for them and NEVER allow anyone or anything to convince you that they are not real, that they are illusions. Be patient…this is YOUR life, YOUR heart, YOUR dreams, YOUR love therefore YOU MUST create the space. – Misha N. Granado