Life is constantly changing, yet as humans we seem uncomfortable with change. Take a moment and reflect on life in general, what is constant? What has remained exactly the same since you first discovered, met or encountered it? It is not forever spring, a woman is not forever pregnant, you are not still with the first person you had a crush on in elementary or middle school.
Life is in constant motion and change reflects this movement. Even within our bodies, cells die and new ones are created, skin sheds and is replaced with a new layer. Loved ones die and new love is born (or adopted, befriended or married into our families and hearts). We matriculate through academia and corporate, experience gains and losses and discover deeper aspects of self.
Life is about change and within your life change may take many different forms. Perhaps change arrives in your life as:
- a divorce
- a relationship ending
- death of a loved one
- losing a job
- becoming a parent
- getting married
- not being able to conceive a child
- entrepreneurship stalls
- perspective changes about religion
- health complications
- career advancements that require relocation or increased travel
- romantic partner changing their mind about having children
- injury that changes abilities, etc.
We cannot control the external world including other people, but we can control our mind and the manner in which we speak to ourselves.
Oftentimes when we ‘perceive’ the external world as crumbling around us, we sometimes have the tendency to turn on ourselves. We begin to have unkind, unloving, harsh conversations in our heads. In essence we turn against ourselves becoming our own enemy.
At Love Grows, regardless of your relationship status (single, married, dating, parent, etc) we always begin with the relationship YOU have with yourself because (1) YOU are the common denominator in ALL of your relationships and (2) YOU are always with You. Therefore, it is imperative YOU become YOUR best friend, 1 cheerleader, advocate and supporter. To master the Art of encouraging, motivating and loving self fully; allowing your mind to become your ‘safe space’ and Zen-like oasis and refuge from the world. You must learn how to have loving internal dialogue with yourself.
When you are ready to learn the Art of Speaking to Self with Love, we are here and ready to accompany you on your journey. Schedule your session today (firstname.lastname@example.org). This is what we do, we grow love! – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS