Do you lead with what you are not either to others or as the repeating loop in your mind?
- I am not rich.
- I am not pretty.
- I am not happy.
- I am not worthy.
- I am not fulfilled.
- I am not engaged.
- I am not loveable.
- I am not a mother.
- I am not courageous.
- I am not a home owner.
- I am not in a relationship.
- I am not married, anymore.
- I am not a size [fill in the blank].
- I am not successful [self-defined].
The ‘I am’ statement is powerful. It is a declaration, a claim you are making.
Oftentimes these ‘nots’ result when we compare and contrast self to others, when we allow others to dump their mucky perspective onto us OR reside deep beneath the surface. These ‘nots’ result in energetic and emotional knots of not good enough. But what is the source of this narrative…this root?
In this era of short attention span, historical and generational muck rarely is considered as it pertains to our knots. How many of your knots were passed on in utero? How many knots are your great, great, great grands? All knots if we follow it deep enough will lead us to fear. This unconscious space, that we are unaware of and do not know what it stores and how it influences our thoughts, perspective and behavior.
For example, if you are in your 30s or 40s and single (yet desire a romantic space); on the surface (conscious mind) you may correlate your single status with not being good enough or that something is wrong with you as a result of the messaging from society, family, friends, etc. Because in some sectors, singleness is considered an ailment. You may fear that you are getting older and as a result your value is diminishing; because youth is valued in many societies.
However, what if you go deeper? What is there?
- Perhaps your mom was not married to your dad or had an unhealthy relationship.
- Maybe your grandmother was not married to your grandfather.
- How far does this pattern go?
The ‘generational root’ is that you may fear this will also be your experience because heck you are currently single. You may fear that you will continue this cycle and have the same experience as your maternal lineage and that causes sheer panic.
This is a MAJOR breakthrough in the healing process, identifying a root. Because it is from here you can begin to change the narrative. You are NOT your grandmother. You are NOT your mom. You can begin to break this pattern. You CAN do something different. You CAN change the narrative. Look around, look at how much you DO have. Look at all of the affirming, loving, positive, strong, life-giving I AMs you have in your life. IT IS NEVER TO LATE MY LOVE FOR LOVE…NEVER!
The name Love Grows is not just some catchy phrase. This is what we do, all the way to the root level. There is no quick 5 this or that with us. What we do is NOT a tweet. We are in the business of healing, growing, nurturing, transforming, changing and loving. You know what to do…when you are ready, contact us. - M