In religious text there is a saying, 'He who finds a wife, finds a good thing.' At Love Grows we subscribe to:
'One who discovers self, finds a new world.'
Finding someone to marry is simple. There are plenty of people who are married, some are extremely happy and living their best lives together, others are absolutely miserable together and still others fall somewhere along the continuum.
A significant percentage of people do not know themselves, instead who they 'know' is a culmination of their generational, societal, religious, cultural, etc. muck in which they were conceived and nurtured. Many were told who they were, what they should believe, how they should and should not behave, think, speak, walk, act, etc. If your 'teachers' (parents, etc) had a vision that was obscured by their 'muck' then their ability to teach you light and love was compromised.
This is why our foundation at Love Grows is self, for it is the relationship you have with self that determines and influences all of the relationships in your life. You must take an assessment of You, your beliefs, behavior, thoughts, actions, etc to determine if you are supporting or sabotaging your best life.
Here are a few questions to get you started:
- What does my best life look like?
- Am I living my best life now?
- Are my thoughts, behaviors, beliefs, etc aligned with my best life or are they against it?
- Would I want to marry someone who displays there same characteristics?
- Do my qualities/characteristics expand or constrict others?
The truth is both individuals contribute to the health of the relationship (i.e. marriage, friendship, etc), therefore the best love spaces are those comprised of two emotionally healthy people.
If you have muck it is YOUR responsibility to clean it up, NOT your partner's. Nor does love subscribe to, supports or requires your partner to become your 'dumpster.' You have the power to improve your relationships by healing and improving self. - Misha N. Granado