Are you outsourcing your mind and/or #happiness? Your mind is the most exclusive real estate available and everyone and everything is vying for a piece of it. Have you taken an inventory to assess what and who has taken up #residence there?
- Archaic philosophies that no longer align with your best life
- Cultural, religious or generational beliefs that contradict the vision for your life
- Unhealed emotional wounds
- Other’s biases, fear, prejudices, etc.
You are the sole entity responsible for your happiness and granting access to your mind. There is no recycle bin in your mind therefore absolutely everything you have consumed since you entered into this world is there.
Your mind is fertile and EVERY seed planted there will grow…EVERY seed (thought/concept).
This is the reason why you must be unapologetically vigilant on determining what you allow to grow. No one gets a pass to use your mind as a dump site for their muck. This is why it is imperative to remove yourself from all unhealthy relationships and interactions.
Become selective; do not treat your mind like a dump site by allowing trash to reside there. Take an inventory of the conversations, music, media, thoughts, etc. that you allow to enter into your mind. There is a mind-body-soul connection, therefore movement on one domain impacts the other two (in Project Management this is known as the Triple Constraint). Check in with yourself, how do you physically feel when you have ‘X’ thought, view or listen to ‘X’ media or interact with ‘X’ person?
The goal is alignment in which ALL of your thoughts and behaviors are aligned with your highest and best self.
This will require you to establish and implement healthy boundaries. You may need to stop viewing, listening or engaging in certain activities. You may need to stop interacting with certain people. You may need to use your #voice and articulate to someone (including family members) why X is no longer acceptable. You may be required to let go or walk away from someone, something, a belief or behavior or incorporate/embrace something new. This requires you to become a connoisseur of you, to unapologetically make your health on ALL levels a priority.
The content of your mind and your happiness is YOUR responsibility. It is not the responsibility of anyone else (spouse, children, family, friends, etc.) to make you happy; instead others can expand or constrict your happiness and well-being. Make this the week, month and year to consciously select the people and thoughts that have access to your sacred inner space, your well-being is dependent on it. – Misha N. Granado Exclusively for Love Grows: The Relationship Consultants