Relationships, A Different Perspective is our 5 part series which will take us to Sunday.📌
Life is about relationships, however, I am always amazed how we find common ground because everyone views absolutely everything differently. These differences are influenced by culture, religion/spirituality, experiences, family, childhood, beliefs, values, biases, isms, emotional wounds, emotional maturity, etc. We erroneously believe our perspective (1) is universal truth, (2) accurate and often use it to try to convince, convert or condemn (The 3 Cs) those who disagree.
This becomes quite problematic within relationship spaces when you treat various relationship dynamics (i.e. romantic, business, family, friend, associate, colleague, etc) based on the category instead of tailoring the relationship to the person.
For example, as a girlfriend you may engage in X behaviors, have Y expectations and utilize 'Z' communication style with all of the men you date. This is what we at Love Grows call the 'Me Script Behavior' where it is all about you. In essence, it's as if you hand a script to the person and expect him to fill a role. Instead of co-creating a beautiful love story in real time together where BOTH parties are 'contributing writers with the power to 'edit, make suggestions', etc (use voice). This is the tailored approach, customized to each person specifically.
Think about how special you feel when you receive something customized. For example, when I give a card, instead of scribbling their name on the envelope, I personalize it with alphabetized stickers, spray it with perfume and hand write a message. This simple gesture is always met with such appreciation of 'Wow! Misha! Look at my name! Wow it even smells good!'😁
Now imagine how different your relationships would be if you were to tailor them to the person instead of the general title. People can FEEL the difference. There is something beautifully magical when a space is created just for you 💗. This is where love grows. - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS