Sometimes our wounds speak on our behalf and this is unfortunate because our wounds are not connected to our heart space, the place that represents our authentic and best self.
Wounds only understand wounds, therefore when our wounds take the lead and our voice, the recipient's wounds are the only ones who understand the language and as a result their wounds respond.
This ‘wounded language’ results in a painful, harmful, unloving, fearful dialogue that can sabotage a relationship and inflict or exacerbate existing wounds for all parties involved. Oftentimes this exchange can be avoided or stopped if one or both parties are present (tapped into their heart space) recognizing that their wounds are at war and steps in to stop the exchange. This requires honesty, the ability to be vulnerable, gentle and patient. Someone has to speak love in order to connect and activate the other person’s heart space which will (1) ground him/her and (2) allow them to be present.
Healing our emotional wounds takes work, it requires us to be tenacious, patient, gentle and committed. Some of our wounds run deep and even though we have healed portions of our ‘wounded tree’ we may not have healed the root, hence the reason we continue to discover wounds that we did not know existed (until they are touched).
Invest in your healing. You are NOT your wounds ©. – Misha N. Granado