Whenever we experience change, especially an unexpected or unwanted change connected to our heart space we sometimes become extremely critical of ourselves and perhaps life, love and relationships. We may begin to question our worth and if we are good enough and if we have the strength, will and courage to move pass this particular time in our life. We may even feel scared or in some cases immobilized, depending on the type of change or loss experienced. Even those who are the ‘rock’ for others, the extremely ‘optimistic, find the silver lining in all things’ type of people may experience a loss so devastating to their heart which results in their core being shaken.
It is easy to lose sight of the big picture and who we are in the mist of these type of emotional storms and even easier to get swept into the tumultuous tornado of heartache.
This is what social media does not show. Your friends, associates and loved ones rarely post pictures, live videos and posts about these moments in their lives. This is why at Love Grows we are advocates of getting offline and connecting with your people. Looking into their eyes (not your gadgets), exchanging energy and connecting in real time without the barrier of technology. This is one of the surest ways to know what is truly going on with each other.
Tip 5 is to surround yourself with love, family and friends who remind you that you are worthy, amazing, wanted, desired, smart, creative, strong, funny, beautiful, handsome, powerful, etc. Sometimes when we are heartbroken, another way to help heal our heart is to help others perhaps by volunteering, mentoring or teaching. For others engaging in activities that bring you joy or by connecting with nature or animals (puppies, kittens, etc.).
Who do you need to check on today? Who has crossed your mind or heart? Do not ignore it. Do not send a text. Pick up the phone and call or schedule a time to meet in person. You are picking up on something. Honor it. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS