I know you desire a beautiful romantic relationship but PLAYING ‘house, wife, stripper, freak, chef, maid, mother to his children, therapist, coach, confidant, venture capitalist, travel agent, personal assistant, chauffeur, motivation coach, head hunter, etc.’ to a man (no matter how many items on your checklist he may possess) who has not made a commitment to you is a waste of your time, energy, pretty, and life.
Ask any of your married guy friends “Why did you decide to marry your wife?”
I guarantee he will NOT say it was because of the sexual tricks she turned, the flatness of her stomach, the color of the bottom of her shoes, her hip-waist ratio, or the way she gave her best to him even when he did not make a commitment to her. Instead, of the many reasons he gives included are:
‘She knew her worth and did not settle or accept BS from me or anyone.
She was willing to walk away to maintain her dignity.
She was not desperate nor did she operate out of fear’ as a few reasons he provides (depending on the type of man).
• When a woman operates from fear she settles because she erroneously believes that she will not meet a man and have the type of relationship/experience she desires.
• When a woman operates out of fear, she spends the majority of her time, energy and resources on her external body and neglects her inner (mental, emotional, and spiritual) because she believes her external body is the key to her happiness.
• When a woman operates out of fear, she settles for a piece of a man, remains in unhealthy relationships and compromises on various levels (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual) because somewhere, somehow she erroneously believes she is not worthy.
Healthy, loving, fun, beautiful romantic relationships do not begin in the bedroom, they begin in the mind when both individuals take the time to get to know one another and allow the relationship to naturally evolve (no timetables, societal pressures, etc.).
These individuals have done their own work, are happy with self, and as a result are not looking for someone to complete them; instead they are at a place where they want someone to accompany them on their journey to expand their happiness.
The truth is, if you are not his wife stop playing ‘wifey.’ If he has not made a monogamous commitment to you, move him back to his appropriate place (platonic friend, associate, etc.) and interact with him accordingly. YOUR words AND behaviors must be aligned at ALL times. That means if there is a behavior that you would NOT engage in with a platonic male friend because for you it is a ‘romantic, committed, monogamous relationship’ type of behavior then do NOT engage in this behavior outside of a romantic, committed, monogamous relationship ©. – Misha N. Granado