Ultimately we desire to be happy and we enter into each of our relationships and embark on all of these experiences with the hope and expectation that they will expand and contribute to our happiness. Sometimes we get in our own way because in our futile attempts to control life we do not enter into spaces or seize opportunities because we fear a particular outcome. Even if we are happy and life is going well we allow fear and all of his cronies to fill our heads with What Ifs and because we cannot guarantee forever we let go of what|who is contributing to our happiness. But what in life is forever?
- It is not forever spring
- a woman is not my forever pregnant
- you did not forever crawl
- your child did not remain a toddler forever,
- you were not a freshman forever
- and even if a couple is married for 50+ years, there is still death.
The key is to remain present and fully immerse yourself in all of the infinite ways happiness manifests in your life. Yes, life is filled with the unexpected and it is quite possible that one of your paths to happy changes trajectory significantly due to a loss. In loss, happiness is not trying to recreate the same path with a new person instead it is to create a new path. The beauty of this life is that there are infinite paths to happy and many people who can join our journey and expand our happiness exponentially. -Misha N Granado, MPH, MS